Will 2021 Be The Year You Invest In Yourself?
Let’s face it, 2020 was pretty much the worst year ever! But now that 2021 is right around the corner I am determined to make 2021 the best year ever! I am planning on doing a lot of things to ensure that happens, obviously that includes keeping an immaculate house, eating a clean diet with no junk food and make sure my children only watch TV 30 minutes a day… Okay let’s get real, none of that is going to happen! But in all seriousness there are some big things that I do want to do in 2021.
“I have a family photo up on our wall from this year that I love and it reminds me daily that I am a good mother, a good wife and I feel beautiful.”
Find visual reminders that you can see everyday to help you accept yourself 100% as you are.
Accept myself 100%
This is the first thing on my list, and it’s honestly the hardest. I look in the mirror and I just want to be smaller, and have less bumps! I am always getting onto myself for not being a certain size, eating too many sweets, and restarting the dryer 3 times before I finally give in and fold it! That being said, I am determined to let it go, accept me as I am, in my imperfect body and my messy house. I feel like making this massive mind shift is going to take daily practice, some days I am winning at this and feel amazing in my own skin, and others I just want to stay at home in my leggings and feel sorry for myself because I can’t eat whatever I want and stay skinny. I plan on doing things that will remind me daily that I am lovable as is, that I am perfect as is, and that the voice in my head saying otherwise is wrong, dead wrong! Having a visual daily reminder will help on those days where it seems hard or impossible to drown out that voice. I have a family photo up on our wall from this year that I love and it reminds me daily that I am a good mother, a good wife and I feel beautiful.
Buy The Things
I don’t know if I am alone in this, but even when I have the money I put off buying certain things for myself. For example, makeup, I truly enjoy buying high end makeup, but I don’t wear it everyday and to be honest I don’t even wear it every week. I think this stems back to not appreciating myself enough to get ready and being a mom to a 3 year old and 1 year old. So instead of treating myself, I don’t buy it. I do the same thing with getting my hair done and clothes. I don’t know how many times I have said, “I’ll definitely buy {said style of clothing} when I am skinnier, that’s when it will look good enough for me to buy it.”. This year I am going to spend the money on myself and NOT feel guilty about it! Don’t worry I’ll still be wearing leggings, cause you know comfort, but I’ll also be dressing the way I want despite my size!
Model is wearing Christian Louboutin shoes because she’s worth it
Do The Things
In addition to accepting myself and buying things just for me without guilt, I also plan on doing more things that I enjoy doing. I am not talking about doing things with the kids that keep them happy like going to the park, which I do enjoy because hello they are content. I am describing the things for me that bring me joy. (Obviously my children bring me joy, but mama needs her time too) In addition to feeling guilty about spending money on myself I also feel guilty spending time on myself. Becoming a mother is so crazy, I never thought I would feel bad about wanting to drop the kids off with the babysitter so I could go shopping, or sew, or sleep! Alas mother-guilt, it’s a real thing, and I hate it! I love my children, but hate how my entire world changed from doing whatever I want without a second thought to overthinking every. Single. Thing. For example my daughter had a diary sensitivity and I nursed her, so I didn’t even get to eat any ice cream for a year! (If this is you, the So Delicious Salted Caramel Cluster ice cream is life! get it!)
So 2021 I am going to get a sitter and do some more sewing and of course spend more time shooting boudoir in the Sanford studio. I really love working with my clients and creating beautiful photos. I took time off, from shooting, when my kids were really little so I could be a stay at home mom. It has been a wonderful year, but I missed creating gorgeous photos with my girls and helping them to see themselves as the amazing, beautiful, sexy women that they are! My job as a boudoir photographer is one of the most rewarding things I have ever done.
In Conclusion
let 2021 be the year that you invest in yourself. If you have been wanting to a boudoir shoot, but using any of the above mentioned excuses/reasons for not doing one, then stop and book your session for 2021 immediately. YOU DESERVE IT! Let your boudoir photos be a daily reminder that you are worth it, that you are beautiful, that you are perfect just as you are, right now, today. If there is something else you’ve been wanting to do, DO IT! I want to hear about what you are going to do to invest in yourself for 2021 join our private Facebook group to discuss.
